Fitness…

In this day of fitness and exercise we are bombarded with images of beautiful and fit women. They are all over the covers and pages of magazines. We buy them by the stack. We read them while consuming our fancy coffees and muffins. And we feel guilty. At least I do. Why can’t I discipline myself to look like that? I know it takes discipline…the few times I’ve tried to get into some sort of shape, I have noticed it takes work. It doesn’t happen overnight. If anything, even after a few weeks I can’t see any difference. That’s usually when one quits. Why do I quit when it feels good (after the workout) and I know it’s good for me? Continue reading Fitness…

Porn for Women

I thought I would put up a title that would make you read further. Everyone loves a little scintillation…right? That’s what I’ve been told. It helps the marriage, makes it hotter…right? My question to you is, at what price? Isn’t that what porn if for? Spicing things up? “I don’t look at porn!” You say…that’s disgusting! Well…do you read romance novels? Novels that have some “action” in them? Does it get you all hot and bothered? Continue reading Porn for Women

Wants vs Needs

“Keeping up with the Joneses”, or in this day and age…the Kardashians. We have been programmed to look a certain way, behave a certain way, buy certain things…all to the detriment of our own soul! Whether or not you are a believer…this vicious cycle is still there. When I was 19 years old I had a mad crush on someone, and he happened to like me back! What a thrill. He was a catch! I had no doubt in my mind that this was a match made in heaven…until a chance comment from a friend. She looked at me and said, “I don’t get what he sees in you, you don’t even wear Ralph Lauren!” At that moment my life changed to label reading, binge shopping, insecurity and debt!!! A downward spiral of shopping in places I couldn’t afford and running a constant credit card balance. Obviously this romance of mine didn’t last, but many years of insecurity stemmed from it. What if he didn’t like me because I wasn’t a sharp dresser? Or I didn’t look the way I should have? Twenty years later I still worried about my “labels” and even toyed with the idea of some type of plastic surgery. Continue reading Wants vs Needs

Vanity, at least mine…

“Guidelines for Leadership.” This is the subject I have been studying, reluctantly, for a long time now. Why am I studying this? I have this misguided idea that if I have a degree I will be validated. That what I have to say will be important. It’s all about vanity!!! I tell myself that I am studying because I will be more effective in ministry, but deep down I don’t think that I’m telling myself the truth. What does this say about the condition of my heart and mind? I guess it would mean that “I am made entirely of flaws, but stitched together with good intentions.” (One of my favorite quotes.). How I behave and believe are quite often contradictory. Continue reading Vanity, at least mine…

Mind over Matter

Is it possible to force our way to better behavior and to a better mindset? I think so. And is it fake if it works? Have you ever had a person in your life who gets you upset or annoyed every time you see them, or even hear their name? I have some in mine. There are people who make my blood pressure rise. Are they my enemies? No, they are sometimes even friends! Seasons and situations can arise where relationships can be strained, sometimes without one party even knowing about it. With women these situations can be frequent and intense. Sometimes hormonal or from the seasons of the moon, or just miscommunication…any which way, it is all consuming. We spend our hours second guessing ourselves and what we might have said or done. Could we have done something differently? There is a great quote… Continue reading Mind over Matter