No wonder we try to get our power through our appearance, because that is the only place we feel like we have any control. We can “control” men and their appetites when we look like an ageless porn star. After all, that is what we are conditioned to believe our worth is, and that is how men are conditioned to think about women. Just watch, use some “new eyes”, and ask yourself a few questions while you are watching a screen, or scanning a magazine.
“Is this woman being celebrated because she is attractive?”
“Is this woman being celebrated because she is free sexually?”
“Is this woman being celebrated because she is overweight, and so she must be funny, because that is the only way she can be noticed?”
“Is this woman being celebrated because she is just like a man?”
“Is this woman being celebrated because she has some awesome skill, for example decorating a house?”
“Is the woman being used as an example of crazy behaviour? Mentally unstable?”
I think you’ll find that for the most part, women are being portrayed in a way that we don’t even notice. We can’t be “real” because then there is something wrong. It isn’t interesting enough to even put on a screen, and why waste precious entertainment dollars showing something real. Even reality tv is crazy!! How are these people even real? Most of the entertainment that comes from that venue are from people who believe the lie that we are only valuable if we are sex objects, mentally unstable, or rich…or a combination of all three!
How is this even entertainment? Because we are blind by conditioning, and in that we are always in the process of shaving a few pounds, smoothing out our skin, thinning out our legs, propping up our backside, injecting toxins into our bodies or even going under the knife. The alarming trend I am starting to see is how many professing christians are also in this business of “improvement”. We are kept busy on our “body projects” so that we cannot be effective in the kingdom of God. Better to be kept distracted.
Where does it come from?
to be continued…
Over the last 50+ years we have been indoctrinated by pornography. Playboy, Penthouse, Hustler…etc…if you’re old enough you might remember those “hidden” magazines that one had to make a real effort to buy and look through; well they just look tame compared to what we have accessible now. If anything, our normal evening line up on mainstream television and Netflix is more pornographic than anything out there 50 years ago. There are 420 million+ pages of porn online these days…easy to find and easy to look at in secret.
But do we even do this in secret anymore? Not really.
It’s all about Freedom! Empowerment! Embracing your sexuality! I’m sure that these words sound familiar to you? These are the words used to justify the filth that we get to see on a daily basis.
Just open up a magazine, any one that is marketed out there, and you will see overtly sexual advertisements. If they aren’t sexual then they are selling the idea that we all need to look ageless, and our value comes from looking young. Billions of dollars spent each year making us buy something to feel better about ourselves. Plastic surgery and Botox are becoming so normal that we don’t even blink when we see another stretched out expressionless face, or breasts that can’t possibly be natural. “Hey, if you don’t like it, then fix it!!” Right?
Does this only go back 50+ years? No. It goes back throughout time. Even in the Bible women were treated like a commodity. Women were used as property, for slavery, and treated like second class citizens. They really didn’t have any value. And there was no question that they would have the same rights as men. The odd verse would tell of a woman accomplishing something, but for the most part they were ignored. Unfortunately there are many places in the Bible where the oppression of women is used as a tool to keep us down. After all, we are to be quiet, and to wear long hair, and to be in service to our husband who is the head of the household.
Sound familiar? It does to me.
No wonder we try to get our power through our appearance…
to be continued…
At the age of 10 I received a compliment from an older man, he must have been in his 30’s or so, and it changed me from the inside. I realized quite quickly that I had “something” that men would notice, and it would give me power. Looking back, I can see that what he did was inappropriate, and he should have kept his mouth shut in front of a 10 year old. But the lesson learned was…
…that as a woman, I would be judged on my looks,
…that being “attractive”, according to this world’s standards, opens doors for some and not for others,
…that the suppression of women comes so subtly that we don’t even notice what’s happening, and it starts young.
I was listening to a TED talk ([ted id=2102]) to the other day and the speaker mentioned that google gets asked over 10,000 times a month, “Am I ugly?” and it’s mostly from young girls.
We learn from toddlerhood that we get attention if we are “cute” and life is a bit easier in school if society thinks we are somewhat attractive.
So, what kind of society do we live in? How can we not see the damage that is being done every day in the lives of young girls and women every day? It’s twisted, dark and has deep roots.
to be continued…